I hear that having teenagers is really trying. That your kids talk back to you, they don't obey, they think they know everything and they are lazy. Well I guess I have a teenager. Daniel is going through this "phaze" with me and just with me. He dosn't do it to his dad or anyone else... just ME! AHHHH! His new favorite phrase is "yeah...I knoowww" Then mine is, "Then why did I have to get after you?" I don't know how to get him in check. I just want him to say the words "Yes mommy" at least a few times a day. And overall Daniel is a really carring kid who just wants to be loved but lately it is tough love. I try to keep him busy and active. And we do lots of fun things but he can't do anything without arguing with me about it first. From putting on shoes to going to the store to which park we play at and when we go where. I'm pulling my hair out from sun up to sun down. Any advise? I'm about to go to a specialist.
PS I Love Daniel Truely. I just want him to be the best person I know he can be without this attitude.
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I got advice one time that helped me a lot. "Be consistent and firm". He must think that he has a chance to change your mind every single time, so just stick to your guns ALWAYS. Love to you, Ash.
I just ran across you blog today and Bryen is 3 1/2 and I have been going through the same exact thing with him. It is driving me nuts. I think its because we are with our children all day, everyday they think they can get away with it. Sometimes when it gets really bad and I have had enough I send him to his room. But good luck! Also where at in Blackfood do you live? Is in the snake river area? My inlaws and lots of family members of mine live over in that area.
You guys are the BEST parents ever. Don’t let being a Bab-y get you down. Your boys are sooooo perfect.
I love your pictures!!!! It is so fun. Don't worry about being perfect and making him perfect. Let him be him. He is not an extension of you but his own individual. He doesn't need piano, to be a straight A student, or to be a professional athlete.
All he needs is you and Mark to love him unconditionally. –No matter the age that will pull him through.
That is tough-Carson was/is going through a phase of just not listening to anything I say so I started doing this rocks in a jar thing. Every time he listens to what I ask him to do, and obeys-he gets to put a rock in a small cup (like shot glass size). When his cup is half full he gets to play the Wii, and when it is all the way full he gets to play again. The only other time I let him play is each Saturday-so it is something he really wants to earn. Then when he fills up the small cup all the way he dumps it into a larger cup. When the large cup is full I let him choose to do any activity he wants (he has chosen bowling, out to dinner, a movie night at home, going to see a movie at the theater, etc...)
So maybe you could use this idea with Daniel-when he doesn't fight you about something he can earn a rock. I give Carson rocks for even the smallest things like asking him to take his shoes to his room...
This has just been something that has worked really well for us! Hope you find something that works!
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